You’re a smart cookie. you even have the awareness that few do– you can name your problem. You’ve done everything in your power to achieve a healthy and supportive relationship.
When your relationships take a downturn, you might even say, “That’s my abandonment issue!” or “my fear of rejection!” or “I’m self-sabotaging again!”
You know when your anxiety, distrust, possessiveness or neediness is making you miserable. You know when the tendency to be over-controlling or the fear of being hurt is sucking the joy out of the moment. You might even see how being so on-guard can make things worse instead of better.
It's weird how it seems like you end up attracting partners who are broken or uncaring, unable to be present for you emotionally.
The crazy thing is – you’re an intelligent and well-educated and pretty successful at life in general. You have good boundaries and you don’t compromise in other areas of your life. Yet, when it comes to relationships, you lose your sense of SELF – your confidence plummets, and you people-please so much that you lose yourself in order to comply and conform.
When a relationship comes to an end, does it seem to take forever to move on? Is there a lot of obsessing and worrying? Is it years later and its like the heartbreak happened yesterday?
Eventually, your relationship problems eat into other parts your life…You question yourself and your lack of confidence is affecting your career. You forget how to honor and take care of yourself.
Life is slipping by...
Everyone around you is moving on, while part of you is stuck
You’re putting on a game face - but it's exhausting!
Maybe you’ve tried many things to help you “get a grip”…Therapy, alternative healing, coaching, energy work, bodywork, EST, EMDR… but nothing gives you the permanent result that you seek – the ability to ENJOY a healthy and supportive relationship.
There are good reasons why this is happening - and it is NOT because YOU are defective.
(1) Most practitioners only specialize in one or two modalities. They try to squeeze you through what they know instead of what you need. As the saying goes, “when you’re holding a hammer, everything is a nail.”
(2) Even if practitioners combine a few modalities, they’re not specific to tackling the root cause of abandonment issues.
(3) Most modalities don’t incorporate the deep unconscious. Some practitioners may pay lip service to the mind-body-spirit connection, but rarely is there a synergy of the body and the unconscious mind – which is the key to unraveling the root causes of your abandonment issues.
(4) Most practitioners talk about solving your symptoms, which is fine at first glance. However, the Band-Aid solutions also prevent them from helping you go deep and get to the root cause of your fears. When you take the Band-Aid off, the wound is still there.
(5) Many techniques focus on the “unwanted state.” This, in turn, sets up a paradigm in which you interpret your negative feelings as something to be fixed. It assumes that we’re too weak to gain strength from our challenges - which then closes off our ability to learn. It cuts off our inner intelligence (which is the key to healing) – we can’t access the higher wisdom embodied in our experience if we label it as broken.
Abandonment issues are a complex challenge that requires a synergistic solution – the alchemy of scientific knowledge and energetic healing.
To get to the bottom of your abandonment issues so you can unravel it from where it took root, we need to broaden our approach.
After working with hundreds of clients over the past 18years, here’s what I know:
To create lasting changes, we need to incorporate a variety of disciplines and techniques. It’s not all scientific and clinical, it’s not all feel-good personal development talk, nor is it all energy work or someone giving you a reading or doing "healing" to you.
The effective approach requires a synergy of neurology, breath response, energy patterns, applied kinesiology, fight-flight nervous system reactions, awareness, memory, visualization, sense of hope and possibility, the interplay between the conscious and unconscious minds, courage to be authentic, inviting and creating space for healing, self-acceptance, forgiveness, and trust…
This is not a bunch of things to do just so we can check everything off the list.
The ultimate goal is to leverage the synergy of all that we have at our disposal to access information that’s held deep in your own system…
That information has been there the entire time – we’re tapping into your own wisdom and your own intelligence so you can find the expression of your solution. We have to tap into your knowing, instead of chasing what others are telling you to think.
There’s nothing to “figure out:”
· You don’t have to remember some “incident”or figure out what event to “undo”
· You don’t have to know what to say or worry about saying the wrong thing
· You don’t have to talk or journal till you turn blue
· You don’t have to watch numerous videos or attend yet another seminar
All you need to do is to show up fully to your session, so we can tap into your innate knowing – your system contains all the information you need.
Just like the body knows how to heal itself, we don’t need to make your healing happen. It’s how nature works.All we do during our session is identify what it is that needs to be healed by tapping into your own system. Once it’s activated, the system takes over and does the healing.
There’s no struggle because it’s in our nature to have healthy relationships that feel good. Deep down, you know how to thrive.
I’m Laura Frisbie – your fellow traveler in this journey of recovery from abandonment.
I’m not a therapist – abandonment is not a “theory” to me. I’m living it, breathing it, and working through it. I had tried everything under the sun, and I know what works and what doesn’t.
Before I figured out what was really plaguing me, I suffered from anxiety and depression. It was only after years of research and experimentation did I realize that the root cause of my suffering was abandonment issues.
I combined healing modalities with knowledge in consciousness, awareness, evolution, spiritual growth, relationship dynamics, reactivity patterns, neurobiology and natural healing inquiry to create a unique healing process.
I put all these into a powerful healing program, which
helped many clients overcome their abandonment issues and find fulfilling
Yet, I made one mistake…
Early on I told clients that they only need a few sessions
because this work is so powerful. I was catering to the “quick fix” mentality
that I’ve always been against.
Then I realized from working through my own issues and with my clients that it’s a healing process, not a Band-Aid solution… and healing takes time.
It’s an evolution of us as human beings, and it only works if a client is committed to actively participate in her own healing.
The nature of this kind of pain is subtle and deeply held in the mind, body, emotion and spirit levels.
That is why my work is uniquely powerful in dealing with emotional pain from abandonment issues and other wounds.
You know what kind of food, music, work, or people you “resonate with.” But that is only the 5% that is in your conscious awareness. The 95% that you are NOT aware of is what drives your life and can’t be solved with mind alone.
A Resonance Repatterning(R) session uses muscle testing (applied kinesiology) to discover what is hidden within you AND is ready to heal. It is an emotional release process that leads to understanding, forgiveness, and positive change.
A session brings deep changes from the inside out, so your life and relationships change along with you. A session is NOT like traditional therapy (which is primarily mental) and it is NOT like having a “reading/healing” done on you.
You participate fully -- and you know there is something real happening within you. It is guided by muscle testing (your "energy field", higher guidance, inner wisdom) — rather than limited by your mind.
As those of us dealing with abandonment issues and other common relationship problems know, emotional triggers can make any relationship miserable.
A session is for people who are ready to face and let go of what is inside them, who are ready for something new, who are ready to be more powerful than their traumatic relationships / life experiences.
Each session can bring breakthroughs that ripple out over time and bring life-changing results.
ALL sessions are deeply personal in nature and need to be in a private, quiet place. Headphones/earbuds are recommended for full sessions.
PLEASE do not be driving
Each session for healing emotional pain works to release what holds your negative patterns in place and shifts you on a core level into resonating with what you need and want.
When you resonate with what you want, you attract it naturally
"It's the only thing I've found that actually DOES anything."
"A", Attorney in Australia
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By Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., C.R.R.P.
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