The Five Mindsets You Need
for Successful Relationships
Laura Frisbie, M.Ed.,
C.R.R.P., is an internationally recognized expert in a holistic approach to healing the inner obstacles to personal well-being and healthy relationships.
Laura is a certified practitioner with a background in human resources
development and executive level management whose own issues brought
her to this path.
She offers private sessions, mentoring and training based on unique, proven, holistic processes that get to the heart of personal and relationship issues. She works with clients all over the globe via phone or Skype.
Along with a Masters Degree from Vanderbilt University in Human Resources Development/Adult Workplace Learning, Laura has been a Certified Resonance Repatterning™ Practitioner since 2000. She served as President (2013-2015) of the Repatterning Practitioners Association, an international organization that fosters standards of excellence for member practitioners, .
Laura earned her Certification as a Resonance Repatterning
Practitioner in 2000. Certification required 312+ hours of seminar attendance,
100 hours of face-to-face sessions given, 30 hours of sessions received
by certified practitioners, and additional sessions given under group observation. Annual
CEU's are also required. Laura quips that she may as well have gotten a PHD!
As part of the Resonance Repatterning Certification process, Laura has trained in (at least) these fundamental principles of mind body spirit therapies:
In addition to Certification Training and 17 years experience in Resonance Repatterning, Laura is a Certified Akashic Records Reader and has trained extensively in the Enneagram Personality Types, Reiki, Quantum Touch, and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
I have lived one wild and crazy life. I was about 50 when I realized how much of my life has been driven by roaring, raging abandonment issues. My Mom was 19 when I was born and 2 years later my sister was born and triggered my parents divorcing. He provided no support and my mom was STRESSED OUT to put it mildly. We were POOR. The three of us shared a bedroom in an apartment we shared with my Great Aunt Mary.
I guess I got off on the wrong foot with my mom. I was colicky and a real bummer to deal with (on top of not exactly being planned for!) I'm guessing that I was sensitive to my mom's stress and frustration and wasn't attracted to her energy. Apparently when I was little I didn't want to be near her and I think I hurt her feelings. She developed a deep dislike for me.
I followed my father everywhere. He left us and moved in with another woman in the same apartment building. There are stories about me seeing him and crying for him. I think between that and my sister, I took on a painful pattern of intense insecurity around "OTHER WOMEN".
Mom and my sister were two peas in a pod. Me, the odd one out (and kinda hateful about it!)
My Perfect Sister
I grew into a withdrawn and inhibited child, a bookworm. In high school I never attended sporting events - or even Prom! But boy, I did party and started drinking and using drugs in 7th grade. I had no sense of self-worth, no boundaries when it came to boys, and I’d do anything to be accepted.
Gosh I was jealous of my sister. She was everything I was not, from a happy quiet baby to award winning musician, artist, jewelry maker and MBA. My heart breaks for all of us, I wish I could have been a more loving big sister.
I was the thorn in everyone's side, always feeling unjustly treated. Our family moved from Wisconsin to Tennessee the summer before my senior year. It was a small event that finally inspired them to invite me to leave. I think they wanted to teach me a lesson about who's boss! Being the rebellious, hyper-independent know-it-all, I did leave. I moved back to Wisconsin and was homeless for a few months before a young couple took me in. Needless to say, family ties were broken.
It was all a pretty traumatic load of relationship and survival stress.
I lived with the couple and graduated high school. Now what? There was a little money in a trust fund because my father died when I was 12.
I used it to move into a dorm and go to college but that was an even bigger drinkathon. I slept around - I NEEDED to have a guy's attention. I ended up marrying an alcoholic boyfriend just so I could stop sleeping around and to appease my mom because we were living together.
Just prior to graduation we had a baby boy. During my pregnancy I finally stopped partying but my husband didn't stop despite years of my begging him. I was scared as hell - there was no money coming in. I had a great job but I was a terrible mother - still in that relationship/survival trauma. I had no clue how to be a mother and shuttled my son from daycare to daycare and was never there for him.
I worked 100+ hours a week and work became my entire identity. I needed an identity of success to define my self-worth. I got divorced, got married again (to the boss no less) and... got divorced once again. Bye bye career.
I was burnt out. After my 2nd divorce at age 31, I realized I had a problem. I became interested in well-being. I read the Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck. I researched spirituality. I got my Master's Degree and THEN realized I couldn't bear the Corporate scene. Still absurdly independent, I didn't want to wear pantyhose.
I worked in the family business for a while, I think it was an attempt to work things out with those relationships. But my sister was there and had become an alcoholic of all things. I learned to meditate and decided to quit.
I joined an ashram, and set out to find myself. Meditation awakened some sleeping dragon in me. I started standing up for what I wanted in my heart. I took risks. I was finally able to cut the cord and stop chasing validation from other people.
I went into debt and I cleaned houses while I studied to become an NLP practitioner. Then I discovered Resonance Repatterning™.
It opened the floodgate of all the pain and broken relationships. I saw myself for the first time and recognized the part that I played in my life story.
I developed a new awareness that opened up new choices. It was the first time ever that I became aware that I had deep inner choices. I could choose to let go and move on. But OMG it wasn't easy -- and now I can say I'm STILL learning about those darn deep inner choices. (It IS a GREAT life path, btw...)
Even though I knew I’d found my calling and that I needed a LOT of healing, I had to invest in my training. I ended up declaring bankruptcy to make that happen.
At age 46, I married a man 19 years older than me and I was well aware that his age helped me feel more secure. Even so (and despite him saying that he loved me and would do anything for me) I went berserk when he was away too long on errands.
Soon after that I was researching and writing about the causes of depression for my website and I discovered the concept of abandonment issues -- and finally understood much of my life story. That was when it finally dawned on me that I have abandonment issues!
I discovered my abandonment issues in my third marriage, after two divorces and a lot of failed relationships. I couldn't face existence without being in a relationship and yet couldn't even begin to make a relationship work.
My family ridiculed my work – why on earth was a Vanderbilt University graduate bankrupt and talking about abandonment issues?
But I knew, deep in my heart, I was born to do this. I learned to trust the universe with all my heart, even though I had no idea what the future would bring.
Life is constantly unfolding and there’s always opportunities for more – more growth, more happiness, more LIFE. We have the power to claim what’s natural for us as human beings – healing, wellbeing, and healthy relationships.
We know something is not right when things are all ugly and twisted and small. We also know that we can love, trust, express our inner selves, enjoy stability, and be embraced by a community.
Trust your heart, it’s time to make a choice. Trust that you are not a victim of your outer circumstances.
My life experiences are absolute miracles that made me who I am today. I now have excellent relationships with my parents (my mother and I couldn't get along for decades) and I made peace with the fact that my son has decided to find his own path.
Not to mention, I met my current husband (possibly the most loving, generous,gentle, stable, nurturing, likable guy on this planet) the moment I decided to accept my failures and keep on keepin' on. To take back my own power and the power to heal, to love and to do what it takes to be happy.
I feel like I’ve hit THE jackpot every single day. I have this wonderful home, great friends, and intelligent clients who respect my work and my boundaries. I live with my husband, Jim, on 2 acres in the Blue Ridge Mountains. There is a creek and almost always a breeze, the sun shines a lot, and the nights are cool even in the summer. I call our bit of heaven "dancing leaves". We live next to a pasture with a backdrop of mountain peaks. Sometimes the cows in the pasture come to the fence and visit...along with their guardian donkey, Jesse. He is wild about apples. (He really does HE-HAW!)
My days are filled with phone sessions, working on this website, and household chores. My fave is mowing the lawn! Jim is a gardener and he is showing me why garden veggies are better than "just going to the grocery store"...(me, the city girl).
Resonance Repatterning™ is a phenomenal way to heal. After 18 years, it still has the power to drop me to my knees in awe and gratitude. It is working with clients over hundreds of session that has truly healed me. What an amazing life this is.
To err is human. So is to heal, to hope, and to love.
Now it’s your turn…
It’s your decision to trust and invest in yourself so you become attractive to healthy people. Self-worth and self-respect is an inside job. Nobody can give it to you. Choose to heal from the inside out.
If you’re reading this you know you want something better. Trust your heart and find a way. You, and only you, have the power to invite it into your life.
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By Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., C.R.R.P.
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Because I am a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, insurance is not an option. Published content, sessions, webinars, etc., are not a substitute for psychiatric treatment.