Healing abandonment issues is an inner process that transforms you and your relationships in a deeply satisfying, empowering way.
Inner transformation is what transforms relationships.
Are you ready to have remarkable relationships – not only with lovers
but also with mothers, brothers, your children and friends?
Do you ever wonder why relationships have a way of bringing out the worst in you?
And the closeness and connection that you seek ends up damaged (or even destroyed)?
I bet you've tried to change. Maybe you've seen advice on how you should think, feel or act. (DUH...you WOULD if you COULD...wouldn't you?)
Advice on how you should be does nothing to HEAL abandonment issues.
It's like turning into the "thought police"! No fun at all.
Wouldn't it be great if you could be yourself? (Rather than feeling uptight about failing to follow advice on how you should be?)
When life feels out of control, people get more controlling. What's worse than dealing with an unconscious, insecure, reactive control freak?
Someone who wants to change YOU...so THEY can feel ok...
The need to control is natural.
The need to RESIST being controlled is even MORE natural.
But maybe BEING the controlling one is even worse.
Either way, controlling is not attractive. In fact, controlling often creates the abandonment and rejection you fear.
Another form of control is when people are so SELF-controlling they can't relax and be who they are and have fun.
Wouldn't you rather know that you are capable of positive change? That you can get things right inside yourself? And then you can be right with others? And relax and enjoy?
Would you like to be in relationship with someone who heals their issues? Someone who feels confident that whatever arises, they can process it and come out BETTER than before?
"The higher truth is that the effects of the past
do not have to be your reality now."
For example, here are some "effects of the past" that mess up relationships:
"But I don't want to dwell in the past
OR pretend everything is fine..."
Rather than see yourself as "damaged goods" and having to choose between dwelling or denying, when you heal abandonment issues you uncover your true potential.
You become wiser and stronger through healing the root causes of your experiences.
Healing is the most powerful creator of the remarkable relationships you seek.
Yes, some people fall into the trap of believing they are powerless victims of the past.
And some deny that the past has any power over them at all.
Both seem true...but it doesn't have to be that way.
I see a lot of people bog down trying to figure out if they have abandonment issues.
Here's a secret. LABELS ARE NOT THAT IMPORTANT
So if the question, "Do I have abandonment issues?" comes up, remember that it's only coming up because you need healing.
It isn't about diagnosis or medications. You are not SICK you are HUMAN. You've been hurt and need healing.
Something inside you is getting triggered - it is not logical - and it is causing problems.
Abandonment issues are an umbrella for many issues or labels. Skip the labels and get busy healing. That is what works.
Speaking of labels...my husband calls me a “self-cleaning oven.”
He knows that when I’m a hot mess, I’ll do my thing - and come out clean. He's off the hook.
He LOVES that about me. Heck...I love that about me!
There ARE powerful ways to heal the root causes and permanently heal abandonment issues.
"Issues" are nothing to be ashamed of. They are not who you are, they do not define you.
Avoid the mistake of "controlling" (acting like life or relationships) are supposed to protect you from your triggers or issues.
It is your sacred responsibility to yourself to heal your abandonment issues.
So remember, if you've got some funky ways of showing up in your relationships, the best thing is to face right into it and process your healing.
The process of deep healing transforms you into the person you want to be - so you can have remarkable relationships.
Be an agent for positive change instead of dwelling, denying, blaming or shaming.
Skip the labels -- because healing changes whatever "it" is any way.
Controlling never helps anything and healing helps everything!
Click below to learn more:
Go to: How to Heal Abandonment: Use the power of your brain to be empowered rather than disempowered
Go to Fear of Abandonment: Heal The Feelings & Traumas Causing Your Fears
Go to Dealing with Emotional Pain: Holistic Personal Development, Love and Self Help
Go to Social Anxiety Self Help: What Do You Need So You Can Trust?
Go to Child Abandonment: How to Help a Child With Abandonment IssuesHome › Holistic Relationship Help
By Laura Frisbie, M.Ed., C.R.R.P.
All Sessions Provided by Phone/Skype
Because I am a Certified Resonance Repatterning Practitioner, insurance is not an option. Published content, sessions, webinars, etc., are not a substitute for psychiatric treatment.